Parental busyness is the bane of many a child’s existence. “I’m only trying to give them the best advantages of life” means little to the youngster who sees only that grown-up work hours still run past 8 p.m. on the night of the 7 p.m. concert that Junior practiced for months to get a starring solo in.
Seriously, if you “have to” work ten hours a day, six days a week, you have a problem with your own self-esteem as well as with family closeness. Is it really your supervisor who expects you to stay that busy, or are you pushing yourself to always be the top achiever in the office? Are you thinking of yourself as someone who can’t finish anything in normal eight-hour days, and subconsciously handling your schedule inefficiently to reinforce that opinion? Or are you afraid of your own family—afraid to be emotionally vulnerable, afraid of doing the wrong thing, afraid it will reflect on you if you show up to cheer on your daughter and she plays a bad game that night?
If this issue is having serious repercussions in your family, consult a therapist. If, however, you simply have a bad habit, here are a few life hacks for making more time to attend your children’s events (and for spending more time with them overall):