Show me someone who always has to have everything “just right,” and I’ll show you someone whose picture would look good in the dictionary next to “misery.” Life in this world was never meant to be 100% flawless and frustration-free. If it were, there’d be no room left for growth and discovery, and we’d sink into passive, apathetic lives that would hardly be worth living.
The worst type of perfectionist is the one who won’t stop at berating himself for getting things “wrong,” but applies that attitude to his whole circle of contact. The most visible examples are the customer throwing a full-volume tantrum at a service desk, the driver pounding on a car horn in backed-up traffic, and the office supervisor screaming at a subordinate for misspelling one word in a memo. But many people who wouldn’t think of “making a scene” are pushy perfectionists in more subtle ways—and can cause just as much discomfort to those on the receiving end. Especially if those on the receiving end are their own children.
You may have “perfectionist parent” issues if:
If that’s you, don’t be surprised if your children dread talking to you.
Fortunately, there are ways to cure perfectionism and make life happier for everyone.